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I See Good People (and you can too)

By Gal Baras | Published: May 28, 2010
News flashIn our time, pressure seems to be everywhere. There is a wealth of information like never before, which means we could find out about anything we wanted, only this takes time, so we look for "drip feeds" that will give us up-to-the-minute updates and we assume our sources do a reasonable job at finding and telling things as they are. Reality is a bit different, unfortunately. Most of our information feeds are controlled by a fairly small group of huge profit-driven conglomerates, which make their money by selling. To sell well, they need people to "see red", so they inspire fear via TV news broadcasts, bold newspaper headlines and various other methods. The result of this is the general view that violent crime is everywhere, that different people cannot live together in harmony and that all too often, the only way to sort things out is to wage war on another ethnic group or country, even at the cost of "friendly" life. So what can you do?
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Projection

By Gal Baras | Published: May 11, 2010
Picture yourself sitting in an old cinema all by yourself, watching a movie. Turn your head towards the back wall and see there a big window. Behind the window, there is a projection machine. In that machine, a long, wide film is running, a film you have created. A strong light travels through the film towards the screen. You can see the beam of light getting wider as it travels through the air, showing flickers of colors and movement inside it. Follow the beam of light with your eyes as it keeps on going and getting wider, until you are facing forward and looking at a huge screen, which practically fills your entire fields of vision. As you look, you become absorbed in the movie, finding yourself emotionally attached to some of the characters, fearing some of the others, hating a few and getting carried away with the story. Real life is very much the same. We become absorbed in our own story, which we project onto the world. When we interact with other people, we each look at our own "film" and can get into all kinds of trouble.
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Hidden Agenda

By Gal Baras | Published: October 20, 2009
CommunicationThe world is full of different people, with whom we have relationships of varying closeness and intimacy. More often than not, we find ourselves in conversation with someone wanting to say something, but saying something completely different, because saying what we think would produce the wrong results. This even happens with our partner sometimes, not to mention the kids.
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Criticism No More

By Gal Baras | Published: October 1, 2009
Hostile young womanAbsolutely everybody receives some criticism in life. Some of us have the misfortune of growing up with critical parents, while others bump into their first critic at school, but we all have to face criticism at some point, right?
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Switch

By Gal Baras | Published: March 17, 2009
If you are like me, you often find yourself in an undesirable mental state, like panic, rage or regret. Having this strong emotion for a long time can create the wrong outcome for you, so you want to stop it, to break out of it, but how?
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If You Think You Can or Think You Can’t, You Are Right – The Story of Marina

By Ronit Baras | Published: October 28, 2008
"And I thought all that time I was crazy and imagining things", Marina said when she first came to see me. "I have been taking anti-depressants for 21 years, but now I want to stop. Will you help me?" she asked. During coaching, Marina gradually stopped her medication with the help of her wonderful doctor. She goes out and is has entered a happy new relationship. She has improved her relationships with her kids and is communicating amazingly well with Peter. She has been promoted at work and is considering publishing her story "to help others believe they can".
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I’m OK, You’re OK!

By Ronit Baras | Published: October 28, 2008
A very common human expression is "I wish I could go back in time and change something.Then my life would be different. I wish I could have a second chance". Let's explore this a bit, shall we?
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Making Things Personal

By Gal Baras | Published: April 29, 2008
In over 4 decades of living, I’ve had the misfortune of getting into all kinds of arguments with people. I’m sure you have, too, at least to some extent. However, possibly the most common cause for these arguments was the other person’s insistence on making thing personal. Some time ago, I bumped into this phenomenon [...]
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